One thing that I have always struggled with is handling change. When I first relocated out of my home country, I found it extremely hard to adjust. I like having a routine and then sticking to that routine. Yes, it gets boring sometimes but at least there aren’t any bad surprises.
I tend to get settled into a certain way of life and freak out slightly whenever it seems like things are about to change. I’m getting closer and closer to graduation and the thought of not seeing the people I grew up with every day terrifies me.
Unfortunately, change is a part of life and there’s nothing I can do except learn to deal with it, which is much harder than it sounds. In an effort to do so, I have started doing things that take me slightly out of my comfort zone. Nothing too crazy, just enough to get me to become more comfortable stepping out of my norm.
For instance, I am very shy so I don’t really talk much in school and I have a handful of friends who I sit next to in every class. I’ve started branching out a little bit. I try to sit next to someone new every day and make conversation wherever I can.
Another thing I’ve had to learn to do is look at the positives. When it seems like something might be changing for the worse, I try to find how the situation could actually be better for me. So some of my friends have left, now I have a bigger reason to start making new friends.
It’s definitely okay to be upset or angry over the situation. Take some time to grieve or vent, whatever you need. But don’t let yourself wallow in your feelings for so long that you’re unable to move on from it.
Human beings are strong, resilient creatures. We’ve been adapting to changes for centuries, and we’ll continue to adapt for centuries more. Whatever you are going through, you are not the first and will not be the last. Someone out there knows what you’re feeling and can possibly help. Don’t be afraid to reach out and ask for help when you think you might need it.
Change happens. It’s a part of life. All we can do is accept it. Ultimately, the experience will help you grow and learn, but the core of who you are will remain. It might bring out some parts of you that you didn’t know existed. This just proves how nothing is as big of an adjustment as we think it might be.