Failure, the ultimate fear. A lot of fears stem from a fear of failure. A fear of taking risks, of putting yourself out in the world, of going against a plan, are all because you don’t want to fail.
But the fact is that failure is a part of life, and we have to know how to deal with it.
For the longest time, I refused to do anything for the fear of failing at it. I convinced myself that I wasn’t good enough to accomplish anything and that I’d fail at anything I tried.
Eventually, my desire to be active in my school and my community overtook my fear of failing and I could not be happier about it.
If I were still holding onto my fear, I would not be writing to you right now. I would not have won my Gold Medal for English. I would not have won the award for Most Thoughtful poem at my school. I would not have done anything noteworthy, and I’d have nothing to be proud of.
I recently ran for Vice President of the Student Council in my high school, a position I’ve wanted since the sixth grade. I lost, by a few votes, to someone who might not even want the position as much as I do. Regardless, he has it and I don’t, and now I have to learn to deal with the fact that I was not chosen by my peers.
I was heartbroken, obviously. My sixth grade self had all her hopes crushed inside of me. My saving grace has been the knowledge that I am not less just because of this one failure. I’ve been repeating this over and over to myself:
“Failing to accomplish this does not erase all my other accomplishments. I am still successful as a whole.”
You need to realize that failure is inevitable. You then need to realize that you need to keep workin on your dreams and your goals and put the past behind you. The only way to recover from being knocked down is to get back up.
In times of doubt, remember the age old saying: “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.”
Radeeyah Karodia, Head Blogger