Graduation Anxiety

I have been in the same school since the third grade. Most of my classmates have been at the school since around that time too. We’ve grown up together, seen each other every single day for the last 8 years.

I can’t imagine graduating and leaving the school that’s been my second home, the people who have become my family.
Graduation anxiety has begun settling in. I’m now in the 11th grade, and watching the seniors panic about their next steps has me panicking about mine.

What if I don’t get into a good university?

What if all the time I’ve put into making sure I do well goes to waste?

What if…what if…what if…

The thing is, life is inevitable, change is inevitable. It makes no difference how much time I spend worrying about it, life will go ahead and whatever is meant to happen will happen.

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I will leave school, my friends and I will drift apart, I will have to adjust to a completely new environment which will be very difficult considering how long I’ve spent in this one school.

All these little things I’m afraid of, losing my friends, new environments, stress from university, all of it can be boiled down to one thing: change. I’m afraid of the huge change that comes with graduation. I won’t be a kid anymore. I’ll have to depend on myself completely for the first time, I’ll miss my family and friends, and the combination of everything all at once will hurt like something I’ve never experienced before. Even through my fear-clouded glasses, I can see that in the grand scheme of things this isn’t that bad.

I will have graduated, finally done with high school and all the drama that comes with it. I’ll be able to sift out all the friendships I had purely because we saw each other every day and find my real friends. I’ll be able to meet new people, explore new things, find the person I’m destined to be and find ways to grow into her.

This might come from my religious beliefs, but I am a firm believer in the fact that nothin happens to you if you’re unable to handle it. Meaning whatever pain I feel, whatever fear, I will get through it. And you will too.

New Years and Resolutions

Happy new year!

It’s finally 2018, and even though the year has just started, very many people have already abandoned their resolutions. The whole “new year, new me” mindset seems to get blown out the window by the end of the first week of January.

If you’ve spent your whole life not exercising, it’s unrealistic to expect that it’ll be easy for you to jump straight into the fitness game. Resolutions take work and dedication and people seem to forget that.

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For a resolution to work, you have to really, really want it to work. Maybe your resolution this year is to get a 4.0 GPA. Your GPA is not going to skyrocket just because you’ve voiced your intention to raise it. Your GPA will improve when you make a conscious effort to spend time studying, and even then it will not happen overnight. It will take hours of continuous effort throughout the school year.

Another thing is that people have the impression that the new year is the only time for you to make a major life change, which simply isn’t true. If you’re desperate to change your circumstances there’s no reason for you to wait until the new year. Waiting is just an excuse to procrastinate.

If you’ve been working on your resolution for a while and it seems like nothing is happening, like you’re not getting anywhere, that doesn’t mean you should give up. On the contrary, it means you should work even harder. Nothing happens without effort and nobody gets anywhere by giving up.

I hope you all manage to achieve whatever resolutions you’ve set for the new year, or decide to set later on. And if you don’t, I hope you find the strength to try again.

 

Motivation and Mottos

In English class today, we were talking about our life mottos, sayings we live by that express our beliefs or ideals.

“No pain, no gain.”

“Life is what you make it.”

Mottos serve a lot of practical purposes in a person’s life. They can be a source of inspiration, help you keep sight of your goals, and increase your productivity, among others.

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Listening to my classmates talk about their mottos prompted me to think about my own. I know what my beliefs are, I know the principles by which I live, but I don’t have a motto.

So, where does my motivation come from? What keeps me going? Does everyone need a motto to remind them of what they stand for or can some people do without?

Admittedly, I’m not entirely sure of the answers myself. I know that I keep my goals in mind at all times. When I’ve been studying for hours and my brain actually hurts from the effort, I think about my dream university and I keep going. I think about all the things I want to accomplish and it makes it easier for me to stay up all night studying material I have no interest in.

But, I have noticed it is quite easy for me to lose my motivation. Sometimes I’m so tired, so drained, that nothing can get me to work. Would having a motto, something to push me, help me then?

Do you have a life motto? Does it help you accomplish your tasks more effectively?

Handling Success

We see it every day: young people achieving success and not knowing how to handle it.
It’s a particular problem in young celebrities, but it can affect anyone. We’re used to not necessarily getting what we want or having things go our way, and so when life works in our favor we might freak out just a bit.
Faced with power or money after not having it your whole life, it’s easy to lose track of yourself and where you were hoping to go.But nobody ever talks to us about how to handle success, only failure. So how do we prevent it from taking over our lives?

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First, it’d be wise to only tell the people who deserve to know. If you don’t immediately think about texting them, they don’t deserve to know directly from you. They can hear the news through mutual friends and the like. This will prevent you from seeming like you’re bragging and make you seem a lot more mature, like past pain doesn’t bother you anymore.

Don’t ever forget where you were before you hit it big. Remember how you got here and what you had to do. This will humble you and make you appreciate your luck a lot more.

If you ever said “when I’m ___, I’ll do ___” then follow through on that. Share your success with the people you love and anyone else who could benefit from it. Don’t be selfish with something that can be taken away from you in a second.

Don’t immediately jump into a lavish lifestyle because you can afford it now. Put some money away for your future or in case something goes wrong. It’s never too early to be prepared.

Ultimately, don’t forget to be proud of yourself! You worked hard, you struggled, you failed, but now you’re where you wanted to be. It’s okay to be happy about it, to be proud of yourself, to want praise. Just don’t let it get to your head too much.

Success is what we all aim for, and I hope we all get what we wish for. And when we do, hopefully we’ll be able to handle it well enough that it doesn’t destroy us and our morals.